Tuesday, 19 August 2014

HOW TO TELL A LIE WITH THE TRUTH...



"Once more unto the breach, dear friends..."  For those who don't
like controversy, or are bored with having read about this subject before,
you can skip this post 'til one more suited to your tastes comes along. 

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Regular readers may recall one of my SCHOOLTIME SCANDALS
posts (here), wherein I related the true tale of the time I found a paintbrush
in my schoolbag in art class one day.  In a nauseating CYRIL SWOT type at-
tempt to draw attention to my integrity, I informed the teacher of my discovery.
At the end of the lesson, more paintbrushes were found to be missing (found to
be missing - is that a contradiction in terms?) and the head art teacher was
sent for.  While informing him of the vanished brushes, the teacher said
"A brush has already been found in Gordon Robson's schoolbag!"

Now, strictly speaking this was true, but by not mentioning that it had
been  I who'd found and reported it, a falsehood was implied.  Whether it
had been inadvertent or otherwise, the suggestion was that I'd stolen a paint-
brush.  It may not have been her intention, but it was certainly the result.
At least for a few seconds until I interjected and explained the circum-
stances of the discovery to the head teacher.

So, what do you call someone who deliberately misstates a 'truth' (as in
something that is 'technically' true, but does not convey the actual, factual
circumstances involved) for the purpose of creating a negative impression
about someone with the intention of impugning their character?  Would you
regard that person as honest or honourable, or say that they had morals
and integrity - or simply describe them as a lying b*st*rd?

And so I return yet again to something I have referred to a few times be-
fore in previous posts.  Here's the READER'S DIGEST version:  I joined a
comics forum, which some members objected to from the start as, presumably,
they took issue with my forthright views on many of today's comics as expressed
on my own site.  A forum moderator, who was, hypocritically, a member of my
blog, was one of those not happy about me being allowed to join and wanted to
ban me from the off.  The site owner, who seems to be a decent and honour-
able man, advised me of this - and several facts - in a few email
communications between us.

He admitted that I was being baited by certain members and that it should
have been nipped in the bud from the start.  He admitted that it appeared that
one person in particular was being given 'inside info' about certain things by one
of the moderators.  He admitted that warnings given to me by the moderator
who wanted to ban me (when the owner was away for a few days and had
no knowledge of what was happening) should never have been issued.

Furthermore, when I resigned from the forum, the owner, who freely con-
cedes that his moderator banned me after I'd gone (on the stated grounds
that I'd 'left the forum') invited me to rejoin, and has since said that he never
wanted me banned and found my posts interesting and informative.  I can only
speculate as to why he allowed his moderator's knee-jerk, after-the-fact ban to
stand, but it seems to me that, as I'd left and declined to rejoin, he saw little
point in overriding his moderator's redundant action (after all, I was gone
anyway), imposed in nothing more than a petulant venting of spite.

Therefore, for a certain person, in his repeated attempts to malign me,
to simply claim that I was banned from this forum, and that he has an email
from the site owner confirming this, completely misrepresents the facts of the
case.  The site owner may have confirmed that his moderator banned me (after
I'd resigned, remember), but it was a ban that the same site owner didn't agree
with or instigate, otherwise he wouldn't have invited me to rejoin.  Bear that in
mind when you're reading the blatantly dishonest spin that a certain blogger
seeks to impose on events.  That's what I call "childish spite"!

Incidentally, it is not my intention to suggest for a moment that the
site owner was displaying any kind of bias in my favour;  as far as I can
tell he is completely impartial in the matter, but being an honourable man,
he was simply being frank and honest in response to points I'd raised
and questions I'd asked in our email discussion of events.

Right!  Hopefully this is the final time that I'll have to address this
particular matter, but time will tell - as it has a habit of doing.  I have
now irrefutably demonstrated that the blogger concerned has distorted
the truth in his version of events and now stands exposed as the wilful
manipulator of the facts that he is.  In short, a liar!

2 comments:

DeadSpiderEye said...

They call it, equivocation, that is: to deliberately mislead without promulgating a literal lie. You see it a lot in public life, especially from politicians, who more often than not regard their record of the practice, with a certain amount of self satisfaction. I believe the word originates from the Catholic doctrine, where to lie is a mortal sin, dispensation was granted to priests facing torture during the upheavals of European reformations, to "Equivocate" to confound their captors, that's the legend anyway.

Today of course it's the stock & trade of every lawyer, politician, banker and insurance salesman. Of course it's dishonest and it's no less a lie than more direct deceit but the funny thing about habitual liars is that have this bizarre need to deny their dishonesty, not just to others, which is obvious, but to themselves. Equivocation eases that process, I think psychologists might label such as: cognitive dissonance or false consciousness. The cure is to force the perpetrator to face the consequence of their own dishonesty. Unfortunately a good liar knows that an untruth has more power when others are invested in that deceit, so the "truth" becomes a product of a warped kind of -democracy- where it's assigned through a head count, rather than its relationship to reality.

Kid said...

Nicely stated, DSE. The person involved may not think of himself as lying because, in his mind, he's merely stating a 'fact'. However, that 'fact', shorn of its context, creates an impression that is far from the truth. I'm perhaps being far too generous - he probably does know he's lying, but doesn't care as he's in pursuit of an agenda.

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